By BOSEDE OLUSOLA-OBASA
Naturally, humans love to focus on reviewing others – what they are doing right, what they are doing wrong, how they are behaving, and how they could do better. It is just easier to assess others than it is to take a long, hard, and sincere look at you. But this is one thing that personal growth demands. You must become honest with YOU!
People who understand that they alone are responsible for the outcome of their lives don’t joke with self-assessment. They don’t wait for others to point out what’s wrong about them, you also have the capacity to do the same. They check up with themselves often, and grow stronger for it.
One valuable model I will recommend to every highflyer is the Personal Character Assessment (PCA) by Royal Character Academy. It helps you gain clarity on the progress (or lack thereof) you’re making in your personal character. It also reveals where you currently stand and how self-aware you are about the kind of person you’re becoming.
Let’s bring this home:
Take a good look at social media, you will see people often ‘acting out of character’ majority of the time. If you observe well, you would likely notice two broad categories of people based on how they react and relate with others or react to updates – Either Temperate or Temperamental people. Sadly, many of them can’t even identify their state, let alone take ownership of it.
Now here’s a quick test for you:
*Do you feel your blood pressure rising when someone disagrees with you?
*Do you quickly type a harsh, offensive or defensive reply?
*Do you swiftly block, insult people?
*Do you try to ‘win’ the argument by all means?
These could be signs of a temperamental character, especially if it is consistent.
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A temperamental person is easily triggered, overly emotional, unstable in their reactions, and generally struggles to control their mood. A simple comment can throw him or her off balance for the entire day. And many times, the weight of their reactions don’t even match the issue.
On the flip side, a temperate person is not weak or passive, far from it. Instead, he or she shows strength through self-restraint.
*They don’t flare up easily.
*They don’t fight every battle.
*They don’t lose their sanity because someone else lost theirs.
*They can disagree without being disrespectful.
*They can hold their ground without losing their cool.
*A temperate person chooses moderation, calmness, and emotional control, even when provoked.
And here’s the good news:
*These two traits are not gifts for some special people, they are birthed by choices.
*In the actual sense, no one was born either temperate or temperamental.
*We all choose which we want to align with; and we can switch lanes whenever we choose to.
*That’s why being deliberate and sincere about assessing your personal character is key.
*It’s not just about being perfect, it’s about making progress.
You can ask yourself these questions:
*Do I always insist on having the last say on a matter?
*Am I easily offended or do I take time to understand others?
*Do I reflect before I react?
*Do I often react or respond to moments?
*What kind of energy do I bring into a room – peace or chaos?
So, I ask you:
Are you temperate or temperamental? The choice is absolutely yours and a personal character upgrade is part of your preparation for lasting greatness.
Be Temperate, Not Temperamental!
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