Today I’m worried about men of God, wet matchboxes and the fire at the base of the mountains of pastors’ wives. I’m worried about pastors who leave their wives’ needs unattended in the name of doing God’s work.

A pastor’s wife was caught pants down with her butt-naked brother-in-law defiling the clergyman’s marriage bed. The video trended for a while, last week. Did you see it? The woman said she was pushed into the act by hunger, sexual hunger. Her pastor husband was focused more on fasting and prayer than fulfilling his conjugal duties. The man of God neglected the fire in between the legs of his wife. He allowed his wife to burn while he concentrated on the fire on his prayer altar. He refused to mount his wife and deliver her from the tension in her loins but instead moved from one prayer mountain to the other. He must have convinced himself that the fire burning his wife was a fire of lower importance than the fire on his mountain. What did he know? When a woman wants her man, she wants him. She is not impressed by his spiritual exercises or excuses. She will hold on for as long as she can keep the fire under her wrapper, skirt or trousers. And women, especially wives, are good with holding that fire than men. Maybe that is why men take advantage of us. They think because we do not have evidence of a ‘morning glory’ or an angry ‘hard-on’ we do not have desperate moments. What ignorance! What carelessness! That’s why the pastor stayed on the mountain, ignoring his wife’s cry for help. Did he think being a pastor exempted him from taking his wife to peaks of orgasmic pleasure plateau, or that being Mummy G.O. excludes his wife from sexual needs?

Therefore, on Count 1, Oga Pastor was guilty. He left his primary assignment, his first call and allowed the devil to use it to taint his calling and ministry. Because, come to think of it, sex in marriage is holy, God-approved. Bible-sanctioned. So what was the pastor thinking, that there would be no consequences for leaving his wife’s needs attended? In any case, how long does it take to quench the fire in between a woman’s legs? You can do a one-hour drill. You can also do a quickie. She’s your sheep, pastor. Lead her in the right direction, lead her to wet pasture. But you can’t ignore her. She is God’ gift to you, your helpmeet, the bone from your side. Ignoring her needs is like telling God to ‘come and carry his load’ because you have other more important loads. No sir, you can’t tell God that. The things that happen when a woman’s needs are ignored are far more costly than the little sacrifice of touching her in the right places and taking her to cloud nine twice a week. Okay, once a week. Just give a good account of your manhood when you do your weekly ministration. That’s all.

A pastor friend of mine told me that when you see a man of God prancing energetically on the altar, singing and dancing on Sunday morning, his wife had ministered to him all night. Meaning: a loving night of love puts a spring in the steps of pastors too. Now, imagine what an unhappy, frustrated pastor’s wife will mean and do to the call and commission. Her husband’s prayer will be hindered. What then is the essence of eight months of prayer and fasting if the prayer will be hindered? Imagine the sacrifice, denying yourself food, water, soft drinks for months just so the man in the wheelchair in your church can be healed, only for nothing to happen just because your wife is not being treated fairly. It’s not even as if sex is some bitter pill. It’s sweet, delicious, relaxing, therapeutic blessing from God. Why would a man of God run from a gift from God, a gift that was created before pastor was formed? I don’t just understand some men’s interpretation on the holy books and God’s thoughts when he created the marriage institution. Is it that they know more than God or they simply don’t know anything at all? You keep your wife on ice for months and you say you love God?

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We all need to read 1Peter 3: 7.

‘Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives. And treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the glorious gift of life, SO THAT NOTHING WILL HINDER YOUR PRAYERS.

Dear men of God, do not waste our faith, the hope of your congregation because that is what you do when you treat your wives unfairly. We come to you. You lead the service, you bless us at the end of the service. We go home waiting for a miracle but you dear pastor, go on to block our testimonies by the way you treat your wives. Today is Saturday sir, make Mummy happy tonight. It is important for tomorrow’s service. Don’t use your I-can-go-without-sex-for-12-months pride to spoil your congregants’ testimonies. Do not hold back tonight. It is not a sin to do your wife well in every style and position. Forget her big hats and flowing dresses, she is just a warm-blooded female waiting for you to quench the fire down there.

On Count 2, therefore, the pastor, whose wife confessed to adultery, in the video is also found guilty of indirectly hindering the prayers of his flock.

But wait, isn’t it suspicious, very suspicious that a man, any man will go without sex for eight months at a stretch? A friend tried to plant a bad angle in my head.

‘Are we sure he wasn’t getting some on the side, outside?’ He asked with mischief glinting brightly in his eyes.

‘He is a man of God!’ I warned him, like thunder could follow his blasphemous insinuation.

‘He’s a man first.’ He insisted on his theory. Bad guy, that one.

‘What if his matchbox is wet…?’ it’s possible, right?’

‘Oh wow, that is very possible.’ He’s my friend and I know how to divert his attention from one interesting theory to even more colourfully interesting ones.

Seriously though, if a man is hiding out on prayer mountains for eight months, avoiding his wife’s bed and bosom, it is safe to assume that his matchbox is wet. A wet matchbox will have wet matchsticks. Wet matchsticks can’t produce sparks, least of all light a fire.

Seriously though, if a man is hiding out on prayer mountains for eight months, avoiding his wife’s bed and bosom, it is safe to assume that his matchbox is wet. A wet matchbox will have wet matchsticks. Wet matchsticks can’t produce sparks, least of all light a fire. Now, that is sad and a natural disaster that we cannot hold Pastor responsible for. But he should have taken his wife into confidence so they could have sought medical and psychological help. To just hide behind church activities, fasting and prayer is both unfair and unwise. We all know that when men’s libido starts waning, it’s like a death verdict for them. They first go into denial, then feelings of shame, anger and then self-help of all shades. You do not want to know the risks and danger they expose their livers and kidneys to just so they can raise the dead, if you get my drift. The small sachets of this and that…Ale, aleko, opa eyin, and of course, Viagra and its blue cousins. May the Lord help our men.

Ladies, when you notice or suspect that your man’s matchbox is wet, don’t let him fool you with ‘ there’s an important match at 11pm.’ Or, members of the Men’s Fellowship are starting a 30-day fasting and prayer. Don’t let him sleep on the couch. Help him get his groove back, after all you were the great beneficiary when he was doing it everywhere in the house. There are many ways to dry his matchbox but this is a family platform, we will have to take the details somewhere else. Right.

Finally, to Mummy G.O who decided her husband’s brother was the alternative to her husband, it’s a shame, ma, you are guilty on that count and your sentence will have no option of parole. Your brother-in-law on top of you or under you was not the solution. Oh no! Even if that was a cry for help, it was a shameful cry. There are many ways, many options, many devices you could have resorted to. There are sex toys. At the very worst, you could have done what you did far away from the homestead. When you have diarrhoea, you do not defecate close to where you live but you, ma’am, you stooped and defecated in front of the family house. Now, you have stained your husband’s calling. You have called his manhood to question. You have damaged your own name, title and position. Instead of people sympathizing with your eight-month dry spell in sexual wilderness, you are now the butt of jokes. It is really difficult to come back from this. But it is possible.

*Egbemode (egbemode3@gmail.com)

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It all started with an ambitious shopping list of a woman looking for a husband that my friend sent to me. The single and searching woman wanted a man who can cook, earns ten million naira monthly and is good in bed, of course. The lucky dude should be handsome, romantic and God-fearing. I responded to my friend that “It’s a legitimate list”. No, “it’s illegitimate”, he responded. How? He zeroed in on the “good in bed” part. He insisted that “good in bed” is relative. I vehemently disagreed. If a man is not good in bed, he’s not good in bed. Even he will know. A good lover proudly flaunts his prowess. He does not leave his woman in doubt. A man once told me that the best way to shut the mouth of an angry woman is by thoroughly ravishing her.

‘Take her as many times as possible. Let her pant, sweat and run away from the bedroom. Do her well. I don’t understand men who say their wives are angry with them, keeping malice with them for weeks. If you are making love with her regularly, the matter will settle.’

Now, that’s a man who can give a good account of himself. If he’s not good in bed, how will Madam feel the heat? If a man is a once-in-a-while or monthly lover, how can he thoroughly ‘do’ his wife? So, I told my friend, the definition of ‘good in bed’ is clear. At least, if the man doesn’t know, his woman will know, and we are the one who grade men. My friend must have gotten a tiny bit angry.

‘Wetin? Shouldn’t a woman be good in bed too???’ Note the three question marks. Mark of anger, I know.

Okay, both man and woman should be above average and meet each other halfway in bed.

‘We men labour too hard on you women’

Imagine! So women don’t labour hard under men?

That’s when he threw in the Apala Maestro, Ayinla Omowura’s line.

‘Pekele pekele, ise oru kii se ise kekere”

I laughed out loud. Translation: ‘The work that men do at night is a lot of work, it’s not child’s play’

Seriously, do men do all the work? No, it’s a partnership. It’s a joint venture. That’s what makes a ‘night shift’ sweet. Sure, in most cases, on many nights, men do the ‘heavy lifting’ but my friend insists that it is the hard work that shortens the life-span of men. In other words, sex kills men. Without saying it in so many words, my friend was saying. ‘Only men die during sex.’ Trust me, I fired back.

‘Women die in action too’

He retorted, ‘women die of excitement, not exhaustion’. See me see trouble, what’s the difference?  Both excitement and exhaustion can wear out. Orgasms can make the heart fail and we all have hearts, right?

I must, however, reluctantly agree that more men die during and after sex than women. Maybe we are more careful and do not have sex to impress.

Men should really watch their bad habit of wanting to ‘go harder’ even when their bodies are balking. Why should a man die trying to impress a woman? Those who have been reading me know that I do not support men dying in active service. All smart men should serve diligently but leave the arena alive. That way they can serve some more. It is absolutely unwise to die on the pitch.

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Think of it, if a man who is in the service of three to four women die in the bed of one of them,  how fair is that? What becomes of the other parties? They all start looking for new investors? No, it’s not right.

But on a serious note, nobody should die having sex, man or woman. The reason why more men die in active service is because they do not listen to me. They do not listen to logic. The duties of a man outside the bedroom are already plenty. To fend for and defend a family is already a lot of work. The hours a man puts into their careers and businesses all day is enough to kill a horse. Add that to the number of things he has to worry about. The number of people waiting on him to fix their problems. His life after hours of work should be relaxing and pleasureable. It should not be about overreaching himself. It should not be about popping blue pills. But who is listening to me or heeding this sane advice? Not the older men. No, they want to win sex championship. They want to impress their sweet sixteens. It is their way of convincing themselves that they are enjoying life. If you ask me, sex championship men confuse me just like the ones who drink wine or whiskey that is not sweet, beer that smells and looks like urine and everything that gives them pounding heads or hefty headache the following morning. I’ll never understand how all that  mean enjoyment. Lagos people call it ‘Faaji’. How is pain pleasurable unless a few screw are loose or loosening in your head or mind?

As for my ladies, stop ‘falling my hand’ by letting a man, or worse still, a small boy, drive you to death. If you love a particular dish or meal, you do not and should not eat it all in one sitting. Eat slowly, neatly and nicely so you can eat for a long time. Don’t gulp it or you will choke and when you do, there will be no tomorrow.

Enough of the digression. Let’s leave the ‘Faaji’ men to their enjoyment and their blue pills. I hear women are doing it too, mixing stuff, popping pills, drinking herbs to enjoy sex. What’s going on here? I also heard that it is not just to satisfy their husbands, that these women are doing sex till death. It is the thing about the ‘forbidden’ apple and dying in active service that we cannot ignore. Note, you rarely hear men dying on top of the women they married, the real owner of the equipment. Now the women are also titrating chemicals to satisfy men who are not their husbands. I hope we are all appropriately and adequately shocked.

Imagine this, a mother of five died somewhere in Ekiti after sex with her lover. The heartless bloke dragged her body into the bush and dumped her there. Another one died and was left to be discovered by hotel cleaners.

Now,  I’m not insisting that all sex-till-death are consequences of blue pills and sachet concoction. Indeed, I am more concerned with the carelessness and levity with which we all treat our health generally.

As we get on in years, we all should reduce the number of times we go to battle. A wise warrior knows when to step back and acknowledge his humanity. No man is cut or designed to do the things he used to do at age 30; no, not at 65. If he tries it, he may end up at best in the intensive care unit. Chances that he will end up in the morgue is quite high.

As for my ladies, stop ‘falling my hand’ by letting a man, or worse still, a small boy, drive you to death. If you love a particular dish or meal, you do not and should not eat it all in one sitting. Eat slowly, neatly and nicely so you can eat for a long time. Don’t gulp it or you will choke and when you do, there will be no tomorrow.

My guys, my girls, make sure you are in good shape for physical exercise. Check your blood pressure, heart rate before you convince yourself that you are fit for sex. Don’t kill yourself trying to prove a foolish point to people who will turn around to mock you for expiring in a woman’s secret place.

*Egbemode (egbemode3@gmail.com)

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Sometimes, a woman is just a glorified call girl, “olosho” , but she tells herself she’s in a relationship. She calls a man her boyfriend while he sees her as just a booty call. She believes she has a man in her life while the man sees her as just one of the girls in his life. She invests her time and body in the ‘relationship’ while the man treats her a little bit better than a prostitute. She’s the one that is all over him just like chocolate melts all over ice cream. The guy, on the other hand, spreads his cream all over many chocolates.

Am I communicating? Do you know any couple like that? Maybe you are one of the men that are currently leading a woman on a wild goose chase knowing that she’s heading for a heart-shattering end not the altar?

Are you a woman who thinks she’s finally found a man who will propose to her but deep down you know something is wrong. Your heart tells you to believe this is your final bus stop while your head is telling you your journey will still start again after this stop.

Let me attempt to break it down.

Many women know that the only time the men in their lives talk to them and listen to what they have to say is when the man is in-between their legs. Yes, the man is warm and nice only when he’s in her warm place. He’s attentive only when he’s worshiping in her sacred place. Once he’s done, he’s gone. He becomes a new creature, another man emerges and she can’t reach him again until the next time.

Sex, that is all that is holding them together. If unless and until you are having sex, you cannot reach your man, you are not in a relationship. Let us play some scenarios.

You are in a relationship with a man but the two of you don’t live in the same town. Note this, he calls four times a day when he’s coming to the town where you live. He sends you jokes and Facebook links of your favorite online comedians. He remembers such words as honey and darling and sweetheart and makes you feel special and loved so you could drop everything and be at his ‘service’ for the period he’s in town. A weekend of intense sex and he returns to his base. Then the calls and text and jokes thin out. He ignores your calls and when he eventually returns one or two of them, he explains everything away with ‘you know how it is now, I have been crazy busy juggling a dozen meetings’. But as soon as it’s time for another workshop or a party in the town you live, he starts prepping you again for another ‘intensive course in occasional sex’.

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Now, there’s nothing wrong with that arrangement if it is also what you want, after all, all work and no play makes Jackie a dull girl. But you should stop thinking there’s more to what you guys share. You are a warm body for a visiting Don Juan. That’s all. It’s just sex. Just enjoy it and stop hoping you are heading for the altar.

That’s why each time you ask him ‘when are we getting married’? He retorts: ‘what’s the rush?’. Then he pulls you into a ‘Cordelia’ shape and starts doing to you what he’s good at. If that is what you want from two years of pretend-wife, go on, give it all up. If you want more, you may want to move on.

Another scenario: Her husband or fiancé is in Dublin and she’s waiting for everything to fall in place so she can join him, but she has stopped wearing her ring all the time. So she meets you, fine-boy-no-pimple, great-in-the-sack. The sex, for her, is body-no-be-wood arrangement. Bros, don’t go and start ‘catching feelings’. It is only her body that is here. Her heart is abroad. You are just a sex-provider. Separate your heart from your third leg in this matter. If you watch her closely, you will see that she wears her ring when you stumble on her in other places, that is when she’s not under you or on top of you. She attends her in-law’s events. Don’t read any ‘mushy-mushy’ feeling into your arrangement. Yes, because that is all there is. As soon as her documents are complete and her visa is in, you will be left grabbing air.

Third scenario: You have been in that relationship for two years. The sex is hot and consistent. Once he corners you anywhere, his office, your kitchen, he drills you like a Sergeant Major. Ah, and if it’s a weekend in his house, he flips you like burger until you beg for mercy. But as soon as you bring up topics that tend towards ring, babies and visiting your parents, he gets up and drinks water, gets in the shower or starts a long phone conversation with his office. If you are supposed to spend the weekend in his house and you suddenly come down with cold and malaria, he’s more pissed than sympathetic. He’s more worried about how have you ‘ruined his weekend’ than what the doctor said or your hospital bill. If your period shows up when sex is on his mind, he gets angry as if the ‘visitor’ is what can be turned back when it shows up unannounced. The two years you have played wifey and housekeeper don’t mean to him what they mean to you. That’s why each time you ask him ‘when are we getting married’? He retorts: ‘what’s the rush?’. Then he pulls you into a ‘Cordelia’ shape and starts doing to you what he’s good at. If that is what you want from two years of pretend-wife, go on, give it all up. If you want more, you may want to move on.

Go on, scratch your head, examine your life. Analyze your relationship if you are sure you are in one. Does he love you as much as you love him or you are the one providing the love for both of you? Is this a one-winged flight, a one-sided affair? Are you in a relationship with yourself or there’s really a man in your life who loves you beyond the hot sex?

All sex is good. All relationships need sex, good sex, but not all sex occur in love relationships. Does your partner care, truly care for you outside the bedroom? Does he walk the talk after you have taken him to all the clouds? Does he only say ‘I love you’ when he’s about to drop his load? If he makes great promises when you are doing things to his body and soul but never keeps the least of them, you need to double-check.

Sometimes, sex is just a walking stick with which we prop up a dying affair. At other times, in desperation, we convince ourselves that a man who knows how to deploy his third leg is a husband material. That’s a sad and depraved street.  Get off it. Only sex is just not enough, so do not shortchange yourself. You deserve it all, everything. Not just the sex.

*Egbemode (egbemode3@gmail.com)

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Her friend had made up her mind to quit her marriage because, according to her, she’s suffering in silence over the years without her man caring about her emotional wellbeing. This week alone, I have spoken to a number of women experiencing similar problem in their marriages. At some point, I decided to attend to the issue this week.

Without sex, there’s no deep bonding among couples. Sex makes the difference between friends and spouses. It is the only secret act that couples do without a witness.

Going through my mailbox, I have several issues relating to poor and fitful sexual activities affecting many homes. In most of the cases, women are the ones complaining. I have only three men out of 44 cases of sex-related issues I received between March and May 23, 2021. Their complaints are mostly about poor erection, quick ejaculation, neglect for weeks or months without intimacy, refusal to explore new techniques to improve the act and outright abandonment by their men while they chase after other women. The men’s cases also vary. One complained that he usually experience erectile dysfunction only at home; the second man complained that he could not satisfy his woman in bed no matter how hard he tried, while the third complained that his wife is “stingy with her body” as she won’t allow him access whenever he so desired. “It is over three months now that I slept with my wife. She even threatened to report that I raped her if I won’t let her be.” The man said he got to know through his wife that a man could be charged for rape in marriage. “I’m not the type that messes around with women. Otherwise I would have had another relationship outside and abandon her.”

Among the feedback, a particular message is touching. It was sent by a woman who later called to explain further her situation. She has been married for 18 years but some years were spent in what she called “marital celibacy.” She revealed how for six years she feigned happiness that never existed in order to cover up for her man and maintain a semblance of a happy home. Her words:

“I never believed that marriage could be miserable for an ambitious woman like me until I experienced it. I entered into marriage with so much hope, excitement and desire for fulfilment as a young woman. I lived a relatively decent life throughout my school years. I reserved my urges and affection for my future husband so I could enjoy my marriage to the fullest. Before I married, I only had sex due to naivety and deceit in what could easily be termed a rape or ‘induced sex’ because I was drugged through a drink by my boyfriend. He later apologised for his action but said he did it because I was not ready to allow him have sex with me. The next man in my life 18 years after the incident is my husband.

“The first three years of my marriage was averagely exciting. After our second child, my man started keeping late nights by clubbing. Later, he began womanising to the extent of passing nights outside the home. This lasted for about four years until he contracted chronic sexually transmitted infections. As soon as I could no longer vouch for his decency, I didn’t allow him to have unprotected sex with me, and thank God I took that decision. As I write this mail, he is practically inactive as he couldn’t perform sexually again. He has spent so much money treating the infections which have not really improved his condition. To be honest with you, I have been without sexual intimacy for six years now which is due to no fault of mine. People say husband and wife signed “for better, for worse” deal but not when you deliberately went randy to hurt your partner and then you expect the scorned, cheated partner to keep bearing the brunt of your reckless lifestyle. There’s a limit to human endurance. I’m tired, sir, and I want to quit.”

During our conversation, she explained that she suspected that her husband may have been harmed by one of her numerous girlfriends using diabolical powers. According to her, she heard her husband telling one of his friends during a telephone conversation that a particular woman had vowed to deal with him in a way he will regret having anything to do with her. “Sir, if you see my husband outside, you will think he’s a perfectly healthy man. I guess he got infected through the woman and he angrily confronted her. It led to a serious acrimony that they threatened each other. It will be seven years next November that we had sexual intimacy last as a couple. I have been carrying the cross ever since; and, I’m now tired and too weak to continue. Therefore, I need to move on. I have just a life to live. I have tried enough.

“In all of this, he’s not remorseful. He’s seriously bitter about his health condition. He couldn’t open up to those that could help him. I have told him that I was tired and I will move on anytime soon,” she said, adding that her husband was not bothered about her notice.

She declined to link me up with her husband for us to talk and see if help can be accessed. She said her man is so secretive. “I don’t want her troubles sir. Even her family members are not aware of his condition. They’re aware that we have issues but the depth of our problem is not known to them. They think it is normal misunderstanding that couples do have. I’m sure they will know more when I quit.”

It is not every “happy couple” that are truly happy. Many are mere packaging and make-believe. You need to work on your emotional life by upgrading your sex life for your happiness and fulfilment.

This woman is just one of many women who are squaring up to their emotional challenges quietly. Strong and principled women have “fallen” into extramarital affairs due to the vulnerable condition they found themselves as consequence of their ordeal. It takes the abundant grace of God in such precarious situation to trudge through the fainting moments. Indeed the spirit is willing but the flesh is so weak to carry through.

The reality is that both sexes do experience such challenges. Several men, including supposed “strong men” are wailing in their closets as a result of what they go through under their roofs. It is not every “happy couple” that are truly happy. Many are mere packaging and make-believe. You need to work on your emotional life by upgrading your sex life for your happiness and fulfilment. Beyond sex, attitudinal and character modification is essential. Like I counselled the woman, all hope is not lost if she could convince her man to seek help and counselling from experts.

Without sex, there’s no deep bonding among couples. Sex makes the difference between friends and spouses. It is the only secret act that couples do without a witness. It is the right enjoyed by two legitimate partners. It has both health and emotional benefits. Likewise, sex lightens mood, softens anger, diffuses tension, make couples bond stronger after quarrelling moments and, it is ordained source of procreation where Godly seeds are brought forth.

Do have a sexy weekend.

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Delivering judgment, the judge, Ms Rose Iyorshe, held that evidence before the court showed that the marriage had broken down completely.

Iyorshe ordered Ojeka to return the bride price paid by Joseph.

Ojeka instituted a divorce case against her estranged husband, Joseph on grounds that he beats her up at any little provocation and denies her of sex.

“I have tried everything possible to make the marriage work but all efforts failed,” the petitioner told the court.

She said that she married Joseph in 2012 under the Calabar Marriage Law and Custom.

The respondent who refused to honour court summons, however, sent an account number to the court for the petitioner to pay back the bride price.

Source: NAN

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Johnson, who works in a private hospital, told  the News Agency of Nigeria, NAN, on Wednesday in Ilorin that if anyone with mouth sore used saliva as lubricant, the partner would be exposed to genital herpes.

He said other diseases that could arise from using saliva as sex lubricant include Human Papilo Virus (HPV), syphillis, chlamydia and even gonorrhea among others.

The medical expert said it could be worse for women as saliva could upset the vagina environment to cause vaginal or yeast infections.

“Saliva cannot even be as slippery as expected which can easily cause tear because it gets dried up easily.

“Also, if the person has bad breath it can cause horrible smelling discharge.

“So, the best thing is to engage in foreplay to get wet before the real action.

“But if that is not attainable, get a lubricant in registered pharmacies and not popular chemists around or people hawking drugs,” Johnson said.

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One of the experts is Mrs Subedetu Nafiu, a family planning manager while the other is Mr Olusola Malomo, a nutritionist.

The two experts made the declaration on in separate interviews on Friday.

The spoke on the sideline of the just-concluded World Breastfeeding Week at the Ajeromi General Hospital in Ajegunle, Lagos.

The experts debunked the notion that sperm could contaminate breast milk during sex with breast feeding mothers.

Nafiu, who is also a child welfare manager said that there was no relationship between sperm and breast milk and that people should stop spreading false information on whether the child would suck sperm from breast milk.

“This myth make many women to stay away from performing their marital rights because they are breastfeeding and might cause more harm to marriages.

“There is no relationship between sperm and breast milk flow, a mother is free to meet her husband while she breast feeds.

“Women should allow their husbands to sleep with them, it doesn’t make the child sick,’’ she said.

Nafiu advised women on exclusive breastfeeding, saying, it is a safe method of family planning that can help space their children.

“The kind of exclusive breastfeeding is the one that the mother did not mix any other thing with breast milk for six months, such woman’s body biologically plans itself towards conception,’’ she said.

To corroborate the information, Malomo, also said that no child sucks sperm from mother’s breast and sex doesn’t disrupt any natural nutrient in the breast milk.

“The way the body was made, physiologically, sperm and breast milk cannot meet, much less cause harm to the baby, so enjoy your sex life while you breast feed,’’ he said.

Source:  NAN

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